Anyway, so I'm watching this show and there's a woman co hosting, her name is Yvette Nicole Brown and somehow the discussion turned into her decision to be celibate until marriage. And when it was said in front of the audience, she didn't get much applause. So her initial reaction was to say "Come on you guys, celibacy should be getting more applause than that! You all know that there needs to be more of this going on in the world (while making motions of crossing her legs shut)." Then goes on to repeat that last line again. It seemed as though this woman was more so speaking to other women. At least that's what I took from it.
And that's when I started to get a little annoyed with listening to what she had to say. I completely understand that everyone has a right to their opinion. So here's mine.
It is 2013. Women have spent long enough being sexually suppressed and made to feel less than indulging in the same sexual activity as men. Simply because you have made a promise to yourself to abstain from sex until marriage, does not mean that that is the answer to the rest of the world's problems.
How about MORE sexual education? How about teaching our children how to be smart and properly deal with the normal human desires and emotions that are felt by practically every other human being in the world? How about not being made to feel shame over our sexuality?
“We live in a world where we have to hide to make love, while violence is practiced in broad daylight.”
- John Lennon
I'd like to see a show of hands from how many people have ever felt shame after masturbating? Maybe more so in your younger age where you're just figuring your body out.
But we are taught from such a young age that anything to do with that area is shameful. Our parents don't know what to say to us, so they say "No, don't touch that. Bad." And that is where the seed is planted. And from there, as a woman there's no escaping the slut shaming that will cast upon us as we grow and head into adulthood. Anything that we willingly choose to do with our bodies with another consenting adult will not be judged fairly. If a woman sleeps with 20 people, it's a high number. If a man sleeps with 20, it's a fair number. Since when did the amount of people you've engaged in sexual activity with effect your character?? If you're with healthy mind & soul and you're using protection, what is the big fucking deal? Let me state it a little more clearly so that those that are reading that may have ever felt ashamed can hear it again: YOUR NUMBER HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR VALUE. Say it and say it again to yourself. Until you believe it for fucks sake. And I want anyone out there that is choosing to abstain to hear this too. Just because you choose not to have sex, does not make you a prude or uptight. We are the rulers of OUR OWN bodies and fuck anyone that says otherwise. You are King or Queen no matter what.
This old age way of thinking has got to fucking go. Cherish and love your body, whatever you choose to do with it.
And there's my two cents Ms. Brown.
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